Tips DIET ALAMI

PAKAR nutrisi Nancy Clark dari Majalah Runners World memberikan 10 tip penting bagi Anda dalam program penurunan berat badan.  Dengan panduan sederhana ini diharapkan kerja keras  Anda menguruskan badan mencapai hasil memuaskan.  Berikut tipsnya :

1. Untuk menurunkan 10 pon lemak tubuh dalam setahun, Anda harus mengurangi asupan 100 kalori per hari.  Mengurangi terlalu banyak kalori dari asupan yang direkomendasikan justru akan menurunkan kadar energi dan memicu rasa lapar.  Hal itu juga akan membuat Anda rentan untuk tergoda menyantap makanan berkalori tinggi.

2. Jangan pernah melupakan sarapan.  Makanlah dua jam setelah Anda bangun pagi.

3. Faktanya, Anda seharusnya lebih banyak makan pada saat sarapan.  Tukar atau alihkan sebagian jatah kalori Anda untuk makan malam dengan menumpuk lebih banyak asupan kalori pada saat makan pagi atau siang.

4.  Jangan biarkan diri Anda marasa lapar.  Makanlah setidaknya setiap empat jam.  Supaya jatah kalori untuk sehari penuh tetap terjaga, cobalah untuk membagi porsi makan. Bagi jatah makanan untuk memastikan Anda benar-benar mendapat bahan bakar sebelum dan setelah beraktivitas.  Sebagai contoh, makanlah sebagian jatah sarapan sebelum Anda berjalan kaki di pagi hari dan sisanya bari dihabiskan kemudian

5. Konsumsilah sedikitnya tiga jenis dari empat jenis/kategori makanan pada setiap kali Anda makan.  Empat jenis makanan tersebut adaalah  : 1. Roti, sereal, gandum, 2. buah dan sayuran, 3. susu rendah lemak dan kedelai, 4. daging rendah lemak, ikan dan kacang.  Karbohidrat seperti roti, sereal dan gandum merupakan fondasi  dari setiap makanan Anda, sedangkan protein sebagai pelengkapnya.            

6. Tentukan target penurunan lemak tubuh secara berkala.  Dengan begitu, Anda akan cenderung mencapai lagi berat ideal jika berat badan Anda turun terlalu cepat.

7.  Kalori dalam bentuk cairan dapat meningkatkan dan menyebabkan penambahan berat dengan cepat.  Kurangi kebiasaan mengonsumi minuman kalori tinggi seperti softdrink atau soda, minuman olahraga,  kopi atau alkohol.

8.  Mulailah untuk menyukai makanan alami seprti buah-buahan, sayuran, gandum utuh (whole grain).  Kurangi kebiasaan makanan olahan karena biasanya lebih rendah jumlah serat dan tidak mengenyangkan.

9.  Jika Anda tak bisa menolak makanan cepat saji (fast food), mintalah informasi mengenai kandungan nutrisi sebelum Anda membuat pilihan atau cek lebih dulu infonya melalui website restauran.  Hindari menu-menu dengan kata "fried", "crispy" atau special sauce yang dijamin akan mengandung kalori  tinggi.

10.  Ingatlah. Kalori yang terkandung dalam minuman olahraga, energy bar atau gel yang dikonsumsi selama berolahraga akan menambah asupan kalori meski Anda tetap bergerak.  Konsumsilah hanya ketika diperlukan.      

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TIPS PACARAN LANGGENG

Love story

Tips Pacaran Langgeng mau tau caranya ? dalam percintaan remaja ada saatnya coba-coba dalam arti kata pacaran coba-coba ada juga yang ingin pacaran serius, bisa dibilang  ingin pacaran langgeng. Ada beberapa tips dalam pacaran langgeng

 

 

 

 

1.Jujur

Ini merupakan hal yang paling utama dalam pacaran. Jngan pernah bohon, kalau bohong pasti akan berujung yang namanya selingkuh.

2.Apa ada nya (Be Yourself)
Jadi diri sendiri, paling baik. jangan jadi orang lain atu bisa di bilang terlalu jaim (jaga image). 

3.Terbuka

Kalau Pacaran harus terbuka, dengan terbuka pasti akan saling mengenal satu dengan yang lainnya.

4.Tulus

Dengan tulus cinta akan abadi  nan jaya.

5.Maaf

Kata ini kadang susah untuk terucap, tapi dengan kata maaf ini membuat hubungan anda akan langgeng, karena manusia tidak ada yang perfect maka dari itu saling memaafkan saat penting dalam hubungan pacaran.

6.Perhatian

Dengan perhatian pasangan anda akan tambah cinta dan semakin sayang

7.Saling Percaya

Dengan saling percaya pasti anda akan yakin bahwa pasangan anda tulus mencintai anda.

8.Saling menghargai dan Saling mengerti

Dengan saling menhargai hubungan anda dijamin akan langgeng karena saling menghargai hidup menjadi lebih indah.

Ada aturan-aturan dalam Pacaran langgeng:

1. Jangan marah pada waktu yang sama.
2. Jangan berteriak pada waktu yang sama, kecuali rumah kebakaran.
3. Kalau bertengkar cobalah mengalah untuk menang.
4. Tegurlah pasangan Anda dengan kasih.
5. Lupakanlah kesalahan masa lalu.
6. Boleh lupakan yang lain, tetapi jangan pasangan Anda.
7. Jangan menyimpan amarah sampai matahari terbenam.
8. Seringlah memberikan pujian kepada pasangan Anda.
9. Bersedia mengakui kesalahan.
10. Dalam pertengkaran, yang paling banyak bicara dialah yang salah.

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Couple Communication Tips

by Nathan Cobb, Ph.D.Couples often find it challenging to handle disagreements under stress. Here are some couple communication tips for getting over those tough hurdles during stressful times.

1. Tip #1: Start with yourself. The best place to begin is by accepting full responsibility for your own role in the problem. Acknowledge your own mistakes and take responsibility for them. One question you could ask yourself is, "What am I doing that makes this situation worse?" Instead of analyzing your spouse’s faults, recognize how your own behavior perpetuates the problem and is part of a larger cycle between you and your spouse. Resolve to change the only thing you can change: your part in the cycle.
2. Tip #2: Pause. Give yourself time to stop and think about what you are saying. Buy some time to work through your emotions so that you can think rationally about what the issues are for you. A time-out can be very helpful when you are feeling too upset to think straight. Acknowledge that you need a break. Let the other person know that you need some time to think and assure your spouse that you will come back.
   While you are gone, try not to focus on thoughts of righteous indignation or innocent victimhood. Instead, ask yourself: What is the real issue for me? What am I feeling underneath this anger? What do I want? How can I look at this from my partner's point of view? What does my partner want? How am I contributing to the problem? What can I do to make it right? How can I express myself more clearly? Then return to your spouse with a conscious intention to own your part in the problem and talk about it calmly with an open mind and a softer heart.



3. Tip #3: Assume goodwill—don't condemn each other. We are all capable of intentionally saying or doing mean-spirited things to hurt the ones we love, especially in the heat of battle when one or both spouses are feeling flooded and overwhelmed. But when people are just going about their lives, the initial reasons for conflict are rarely rooted in negative intentions. Most people are usually motivated by positive intentions even if the outcome may be negative for others around them. Many garden-variety conflicts in marriage involve misunderstandings or conflicting goals rather than intentional transgressions against each other.
   In such cases, acknowledge your hurt and communicate that hurt to your spouse, but try not to approach your spouse as though he or she committed a crime against you, especially where there was no clear negative intent. Assume, for example, that your spouse was doing his or her best to overcome a difficult situation rather than trying to make life hard for you on purpose.
   Remember to look for the goodness in your spouse, rather than vilifying him or her. Try to make a conscious decision to assume that he or she has goodwill toward you overall, and does not intentionally seek ways to hurt you. It is much more likely that your spouse is motivated by positive intentions or goals than by the desire to make life miserable for you or to annoy you on purpose.
   This is not to excuse anyone for doing things that are harmful to the relationship. This is about tempering our thoughts and feelings ahead of time so that we are more likely to approach the issue with our spouse in a positive way rather than a negative way.



4. Tip #4: Let go of being right. You might be convinced that your perspective is the correct one. You may feel frustrated that your spouse disagrees with you. Or maybe your spouse has feelings that are hard for you to understand. In these trying situations you may be sending the message, intentionally or unintentionally, "Things would be so much better if only you would admit that you are wrong and I am right."
   It's okay to feel that you are right. But try to open your mind to see how your spouse also has a valid point. Open space for your spouse's ideas, needs and feelings to be valid or legitimate.
   According to Chilean biologist, Humberto Maturana¹, this is the essence of love: creating room for someone else's needs and feelings to co-exist alongside your own without insisting that they are wrong and have to change.
   Often couples become stuck in gridlock because they value being right more than being a couple, or more than being respectful. This is not easy at times, but search for ways to accept and make room for each others’ feelings and perspectives. As one client once told me, “It's a lonely world being right.”
   A related idea is not to reject everything your spouse says because of the manner it is presented or because you don’t agree with some PART of what your partner said. Don’t confuse the packaging with the message. Focus on the underlying message. If you aren’t sure what the underlying message is, ask. Clarify things before making assumptions or jumping to conclusions.



5. Tip #5: Really listen. Harsh, escalating confrontations can usually be prevented by truly listening to each other and seeking to understand the other person's feelings, thoughts, needs, wants, desires and intent rather than demanding to be understood or making assumptions or interpretations about the other person’s “true” motives. Many of us think we are listening, when really we are listening to ourselves. That is, we're thinking about what to say next or how to counter the other person's arguments. As difficult as this sounds, work at setting aside your own story or perspective for a while. You can come back to it. Let go of the need to be defensive and just listen. Listen to what your spouse is saying not just what you are hearing. Listen for underlying feelings and needs.
   Remember, how your partner feels is about your partner, not about you. Remind yourself that you won’t be diminished if you sincerely listen (in fact just the opposite usually happens). Clarify things before making assumptions or jumping to conclusions. Offer a summary of what you’ve heard.
   Resist the impulse to evaluate or analyze the “truth factor” in what your spouse is saying. Emotions like hurt, sadness or loneliness are neither right nor wrong. They just are. You don’t have to defend yourself against them or stamp them out or change them. Just understanding them is an important first step in its own right. Sometimes understanding is all that is really needed.



6. Tip #6: Speak simply, directly and from the heart. When you raise an issue or a complaint, try to do so in an attitude of friendship and caring. Speak in a direct, clear way about your own needs and perceptions, not about what is wrong with your partner so that your partner can hear you without feeling the need to be defensive. Attack the problem not the person. Don’t go on and on. Keep it short. Give your partner space to acknowledge what you are saying. Make clear requests instead of demands or accusations.



7. Tip #7: Get underneath the anger. Use words that describe the soft emotions you feel, such as hurt, underneath the hard emotions you feel, such as anger. It seems safer and easier to get angry than it does to reveal how lonely you are or how hurt you feel, but getting angry also dupes your partner into not realizing you feel hurt or lonely and usually breeds more anger in turn. Your spouse may come to see you as an angry, hostile powder keg to be avoided instead of seeing your underlying needs for understanding, support, inclusion, honesty, and so forth.Revealing the underlying issues beneath the anger often diffuses conflict and bitterness and invites softness in turn from your partner. Remember the words of Proverbs 15:1, “A soft answer turneth away wrath; but grievous words stir up anger.” It helps if you can discipline yourself to stand apart from the situation so that you can reflect on what is happening and how you really feel instead of being reactive.



8. Tip #8: Reward effort. Small changes can lead to larger changes, especially if you see them, notice them and focus on them. Pay attention to small changes and acknowledge them. Seeing change creates hope. Hope invites motivation. Motivation leads to more change.



9. Tip #9: Always show an increase in love. This means that when you raise an issue that concerns you, it is essential that you express words of reassurance, appreciation, or affirmation for your spouse in the same breath and that you end on a note that emphasizes your respect and love for him or her. It is much easier to accept influence from someone when you feel that that person cares about you and sees the good in you.Remember to do the little things every day that demonstrate your commitment to and appreciation for your spouse, particularly if you have had a disagreement. It is much easier to give each other the benefit of the doubt, assume goodwill, and disregard the negative things that happen in the relationship when the evidences of commitment, appreciation and love outweigh the negative.

Communicating well under difficult circumstances is hard work but the reward in terms of a stronger relationship is well worth the effort.

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How to Have a Good Teen Life

As a teenager, you'll be starting high school, making new friends, and most likely dating. Your hormones are racing the most in these few years, so it can be quite a roller coaster ride, but by the time you are a junior or senior, they are settled. Make the best of it by taking the advice below, so that you can remember good things from the past when you are an adult. You will be an adult soon enough, but you will experience many different changes on the way!

1. Have a healthy social life. As simple as this may be, a healthy social life is the key to enjoying your life in spite of the stress of school. Shop with friends; enjoy buying clothes and accessories. Go to a theme park, water park, or a few trips. Try to make at least two best friends, and try to make many friends from your gender and two or three the opposite gender for diversity. Go to arcade places, bowling, or teen clubs and places; this will be the best interaction with other teenagers or people around your age.
2. Have hobbies at home. Sew, read, play computer games, draw, or do yoga. Get a and/or Facebook account, but try not to get addicted to it. Make videos with your friends and post them on YouTube. Check online to see the hottest new music and the coolest new artists and songs of your genre of choice. You don't have to be a fan of pop music only; if you like to listen to your grandma's '50s doo wop albums or some nice relaxing smooth jazz or Bob Marley, go ahead Be a fan of your favorite sports team. Find whatever you enjoy doing and do it! Start a movie or book collection.
3. Be Creative -- Show off your talents. Write music, write stories and poems, create cool drawings, learn how to create web pages and computer programs, create your own clothes, cook, bake, work on a car, anything.
4. Get the latest accessories. Get cable TV and watch shows and films of your preference; family-style programming such as Disney Channel, Nickelodeon, ABC Family and WGN, or maybe intense drama the likes of Burn Notice or Justified. Maybe you can watch some classics such as Little House on the Praire and Gunsmoke, even if they are from your parents or grandparents generation. If you are more of a carefree, light hearted person, maybe anime or animated sitcoms such as Family Guy or The Simpsons will be good for you. Get an Xbox 360, PS3 or a Wii to play fun and interactive games in your spare time. Most importantly, get a mobile, PDA, iPod, PSP, MP3 player, iPhone, BlackBerry, or digital camera. Ask for these for your birthday or on Christmas, or any other day you celebrate.
5. Think of your own fashion. Be yourself and see what looks good on you (makeup and clothing attire). Whether it's face makeup (lip gloss and mascara) or body lotion, you got to be decent out the door, right? www.polyvore.com is a great website to get inspiration for a outfit for every day of the year!
6. Watch what you eat. Eat healthy foods and use junk foods either in moderation or as a treat. Try to have a good amount of water in your system and eat at least one big meal a day; more if you have high metabolism or in sports.
7. Study hard in school. Always turn in your homework on time and do well on tests. Education is the most important thing in your life; doing poorly, not trying, or dropping out of school can hurt your future in a significant way. If you are getting bad grades because you are struggling with something, get help. But if you are sluffing off, it might affect college and career opportunities in the future.
8. Get involved. School has many things for you to become involved in and have fun doing. Getting involved will help you in future years(look good on your college application) and you'll meet a lot of people. Like chess? You can be in the chess club, if the school doesn't have a club you wish you were in (say bowling club) you can create your own! This will help you be motivated in school.
9. Listen to your parents. Yes, as crazy as it sounds, it will make your life so much more easy and enjoyable if you just listen to your parents, so you don't have to hear them keep yelling at you! Obeying them will actually be an easy way into getting what you want, remember it has to be a 50/50 cooperation, not 80/20. You parents might be not be as up to date as you, but they may give you good timeless advice. They are in the real world, not the "surreal teen world". They had been teenagers just like you and you don't want to know what they did in high school, but they had learned from their mistakes which makes them the stodgy parents you have today. Just wait, you'll become the stodgy parent too when you have your own kids.

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Top Ten Tips How To SAVE MONEY For TEEN

Money is a passport to an easier and more comfortable life, says Jonathan Self, so it pays to learn how to deal with it. Here are 10 tips from his book The Teenager's Guide to Money

Shopping well isn't just about saving money. Photograph: Peter Cade/Getty

1.The sooner you start managing your money, the richer you'll be

When you are young it is quite tempting to think there is no rush to manage your money; it is easy to imagine that you have plenty of time. But the longer you leave it the more difficult it will be. Suppose you want to have savings of £10,000 on your 30th birthday:
You could save 78p a day from the age of 13
You could save £4.47 a day from the age of 25
You could save £27 a day from the age of 29
Every day counts when it comes to making the most of your money, and it is never too early to begin.

2. It isn't just about money

Shopping well isn't just about saving your money; it is about saving your time. Suppose, for example, that you earn £3 an hour looking after your neighbour's children. If you spend £15 on a CD in a record shop when you could have brought the same CD in a supermarket for £9, then you aren't just wasting £6. You are wasting two hours of your time (two hours at £3 an hour = £6). Time you might prefer to spend doing something else.

3. What is capital? What is income?

One of the most important money concepts is to understand the difference between "capital" and "income". Capital is something - it could be money, a property, shares or some other investment - that generates an income for whoever owns it.
A good way to remember the difference is to think of a fruit tree. The tree itself is the "capital". The fruit is produces is the "income". You continue to own the tree (capital) and it continues to bear fruit (income) every year. Your wage or salary is the income that comes from the capital of your labour - hence the expression "human capital". Money is not just money - it is either capital or income.

4. If in doubt, just say no

Credit cards are an expensive way to borrow money. Photograph: Ian McKinnell/Getty The big risk with a credit card is that you will run up large debts that you have no way of paying off. If you need to borrow money, there are much cheaper ways to do it. And if you don't want to carry cash when you go shopping, use a debit card. Don't let the banks fool you into taking a credit card out. Unless you have a real need, just say no.

5. When you borrow, you are kissing goodbye to "future" income

When you borrow, what you are doing is giving away some or all of your future income. Let's say you borrow £250 at 12% interest and repay it over 36 months. What you are giving the lender is £9.44 of your monthly income for the next three years. What you are paying for this privilege is a grand total of £90 in interest.

6. Don't get caught in the minimum-payment trap

Lenders want you to repay them. Wrong. The last thing most lenders want is for you to pay back the money you owe them. Why would they, when they can make massive profits at your expense? This is why lenders frequently set very low minimum monthly payments. By making sure that most of what you repay them is interest (and not the debt itself), they can prolong the agony for you and increase the profits for themselves. Nothing makes lenders so happy as a customer who falls into the minimum-payment trap.

7. The language lenders use to make you feel special

Lenders use language to great effect to make borrowers borrow more. To begin with, they flatter their customers by telling them that they have been "specially selected" or are in some other way honoured to be offered a particular loan. Then they play down the expense of the loan with expressions such as "low cost" and "value for money". Finally, they focus not on the interest rate or term but on the monthly payments, which they will describe as being "easy" and "convenient".

8. You control the risk

Not the best way to invest your money. Photograph: Action Images/Matthew Childs One of the first questions every investor has to ask him- or herself is: how much risk am I willing to take? In general, the more cautious you are, the less reward (or profit) you can expect. Whereas, if you are willing to take a greater risk, you will be in with the chance of a much higher reward.
A bank deposit account is not at all risky. But your reward will only be a small amount of interest every year. Gambling on a horse, on the other hand, is very risky. If it loses the race, you lose all you money. But if it wins, you could make a huge profit.

9. Insurance doesn't provide total cover

It would be very rare for anyone making a claim on their insurance to receive every penny they ask for. This is because most policies have something called an "excess". This is an amount of money that the insurance company expects you to pay if there is a claim. Suppose your excess is £100. If you put in a successful claim for £500 of damage, you will get £400 - that's £500 less the £100 excess. The bigger the excess, the less expensive the insurance.
You should also be aware that an insurance company's idea of what a car is worth and your own may differ. If you make a claim, expect at best to receive the car's "market value", which is the same as its second-hand value. If you want to insure your car for what you paid for it (a good idea if you've borrowed money to buy it), you can take out something called guaranteed asset protection (Gap) insurance.

10. Don't be an ostrich

If you want to build up enough wealth to make sure you can give up work at a reasonable age and never have to worry about money, then don't forget about pension planning. And in particular, don't act like an ostrich when it comes to the pensions crisis. To guarantee yourself a comfortable retirement you need to start planning early.
· The Teenager's Guide To Money by Jonathan Self is published by Quercus Publishing at £7.99. Copies are available from the Guardian Bookshop.

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teenage great solutions

 

    Family is the cornerstone of our society and therefore the family system plays a huge part in where we are with respect to how we are relating to each other in the family. As parents, now more than ever, we are taking a closer look at what our changing society has created -- faster growth in the teen pop culture, increased exposure to issues we did not foresee. Teens today are bombarded and are dealing with issues of sex, drugs, alcohol, risk-taking peer pressure, smoking, divorce. They live the tough issues our parents never discussed. Because of this, teens voice their opinions directly, loudly and with or without emotion. Conflict and turmoil have entered into your family with your teen and you are at wits end not knowing what to do. So what brought you here most likely is much of the above and you are looking for some solutions which will allow you and your family to regain the love and stability you once knew. Welcome! We are glad you are here. Teen Soulutions brings you a Path to Change (Schools and Programs for your struggling teen) for your family. We want you to know you are not alone. The Solution is the key to healing your family. The Schools and Programs we direct you to are more than effective, results are proven. Bottom line is - THEY WORK.

    As parents, professionals and teen/young adult graduates of the Programs we all advocate, we at Teen Soulutions have successfully addressed and resolved the issues our families faced. The path we each took to get here today was not easy, yet required nothing that we did not already have -- a revisit to our family value frame, the desire to Change within then taking deliberate action to make the change work. The good news is our families are whole again, our children are alive and well to tell their stories, loving life once again as you see their God given talents at work and play in what they do. You see, our families involved here in making a difference share your passion of Family and have walked in your shoes, from that compassionate listening counselor on the phone to the editor, webmaster, film producer, photographer. The students and families you see here all are grassroots families just like you.

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